117. A Picture Says a Thousand Lusts
Oy. I hate getting to this part of my day and realizing that I’m sad. I feel a bit of defeat when I write about my sadness in my blog about happiness. It’s late. It’s like 3 in the fucking morning. So here’s what I have to say:
I love my friends so much. I totally do. I am so lucky to have these people in my life. I’m so lucky to love these people who love me back. But sometimes, it’s just not enough. And I hate myself for that. I want to be patient and wait for my 10. But like… tonight, dancing at Plan B, I know it’s not about getting a man, but damn, sometimes I just want someone to dance up on me. And like, these people are not 10s but I want them to dance up on me anyway. It’s like I don’t think I can catch a 10. But that’s silly. Cuz I think I’m a 10. So am I just a 10 who is doomed to settle? Isn’t that my decision to make? Oy. So. I love my friends, and I wish they were always enough but fuck, sometimes I just want someone to put their tongue in my mouth.
Tonight, I heard “Just The Way You Are” by Bruno Mars, and I cried. I fuckin’ love that song. And I imagined someone singing it to me and truly meaning it. It made me cry. Patience times a million, James. I can tell myself that’s not what I want, but my heart won’t be reasoned with.
Please note the many layers to this lying down picture. The simultaneous action in the foreground and background. The sexual tension. The unrequited love. The mystery. Ugh. Brillo pad, brillz.
Those times when I’m complimenting myself hardcore, like calling myself a 10, I don’t think I’m trying too hard. I think I’m doing exactly what I need to survive. People might think I’m cocky. But I don’t care. I’m doing what I need to do to make it through the day, to get from Point A to Point B. Survival of the fittest, mothafuckas. And that’s what I’m doing. Surviving. And when I compliment myself so thoroughly, what the f do I need a boyfriend for, right?
Crying is like raining. It’s natural and it happens.
I always walk away from my blog and think about all the things I could’ve done differently. But this is what it is. Honest. Word vomit. It’s not perfectly structured or planned out. I’m writing as it comes to me.
“And I promise you, kid, that I give so much more than I get. I just haven’t met you yet. I might have to wait. I’ll never give up. I guess it’s half timing. The other half’s luck.”
~”Haven’t Met You Yet” by Michael Bublé
It’s so ironic that I loved this song so much this summer. I couldn’t figure it out til now. I need it the most now. I haven’t met “you” yet. And I do; I give 9 million times more than I get. I will wait and wait and wait. I am perfect for you, whoever you are.
I wish it were enough. I’m so sorry. I love you to pieces, I hope you know that. But I just don’t know what to do.
Trying to remind myself the experience is about having fun and being me instead of catching a guy.
Any help would be greatly appreciated. And please please please, don’t be subtle. I have become more blatant with my blog. Please do the same.
I don’t know the answers. And I don’t need someone who knows them either. I just want someone to ponder the questions with me. To laugh about the mystery and the absence of answers. Just make me feel like it’s OK to not know.
James/Esperanza.
oh and Happy Birthday, Ninja.